We All Worry.
It’s something everyone does at least occasionally. Some people even worry about almost everything. However, worrying, especially doing so frequently, is actually one of the most counter-productive things you can do. When has worrying about something ever actually helped? The truth is, it hasn’t. Even worse, it wastes your time and energy. But that may not even be the most negative effect of frequent worrying.
As Corrie Ten Boom says, “Worrying does not empty tomorrow of its troubles, it empties today of its strength.” Worrying means thinking about something that you didn’t or don’t want to happen; it is always one of two actions: dwelling on the past, or stressing over the future. We can’t change the past, or control how the future unfolds. By focusing our energy and time on the past and present, we’re disregarding the importance of the present. The present is where we actually live; it’s not something you want to waste; you can never get it back.
Worrying over the past means going over events again and again, reliving a broken record of negative memories. Doesn’t that seem at best, silly, and at worst, self-destructive? We can learn from the past all the time, but not when we worry. Using a memory that caused sadness, shame, or other negative feeling is only useful if we use it to determine how we should behave differently in similar future situations.
Worrying about the future may be even worse. This is when you worry about all the things that can go wrong in the future. For example, you need to make a presentation. You might worry about all the things that can go wrong. You see yourself sweating, forgetting what you want to say as you look out at an audience going to sleep. Every time you think of those things, they are being imbedded in your mind because “what you think about tends to come about.” The more you think about forgetting what you want to say in your presentation, the more likely it is to happen. This can not only waste your present time; it can also put you in a mindset of failure.
Don’t put yourself in a negative head space; instead, visualize what you want to have happen. See yourself speaking confidently to a captivated audience. You know your content is valuable and you give lots of examples. You have done your preparation and you are giving them the best you can.
You don’t live in the past or future; you can only live here, and now. Too many of us allow ourselves to Become a slave to worrying about the past or worrying about the negative things that could happen to us in the future and waste our present lives. If you catch yourself doing this kind of nonproductive worry, stop it because worry is a terrible waste.